How You Can Help

Please Note: Safety is paramount, and you should use the information provided at your own discretion. Evaluate each situation and use your best judgment as to what is the safest way to proceed, for all parties. We're all about respect here and do not condone or endorse violence. If you're uncertain how to proceed or in fear of your safety, your first step should always be to get help from a staffer, venue security, or emergency personnel. The CSSN is not liable for any damages resulting from the use or misuse of information on this site.

What is Harassment?

While laws vary from state to state and country to country, harassment is generally defined as unwanted behavior that creates a hostile environment for the person being targeted.

It can include:

  • Making comments about a person's appearance, sexual and/or vulgar statements, offensive jokes, or anything disparaging a person's gender, race, religion, sexuality, identity, et cetera
  • Whistling or catcalling
  • Following someone or impeding their path
  • Attending a person's panels solely to heckle them
  • Photographing or recording someone without their permission
  • Spreading rumors or attempting to get a person banned from a convention on false pretenses
  • Exposing oneself or "flashing"
  • Bathroom policing
  • Touching someone without their permission
  • Repeated texting, phone calls, or emails, after being told to stop
  • Any persistent action that creates a hostile environment for the person or persons being targeted - harassment is when a person is feeling harassed, period

Ways to Help the Community

  • If someone confides in you that they have survived sexual violence, abuse, or harassment, look them in the eye and say, "I believe you." Fear of retribution or not being believed is a prime reason why so many people don't report.
  • Act when you see harassment in the community. Depending on the situation and your abilities, that may mean getting the target of harassment to a safe area, verbally intervening, or getting another individual to provide needed assistance.
  • Start conversations with your friends, family, fellow cosplayers, and convention staff about important topics such as consent and harassment.
  • Consider volunteering with us! This could mean writing an article, helping assist with a sponosored panel at a convention, or helping to provide training and resources. Contact Trickssi at info@cosplayer-ssn.org if you're interested in volunteering.
  • Speak up, when you can, for survivors who can't do it for themselves, but don't speak over them. Each survivor's experience and feelings are their own, and should never be invalidated.

Responding to Harassment as a Bystander

Please Remember

The blame for harassment lies solely with the person committing the offensive behavior. It is never appropriate to make someone feel as though they "asked for" harassment or somehow "brought it on themselves."

Each situation is unique and there is no one perfect way to respond to every incidence. The most important thing is to know that even the strongest and most confident individual shouldn't have to deal with harassment alone. Harassment is about taking power away from an individual, and abandoning someone who's being targeted can make that person feel even more powerless and alone, amplifying the trauma.

As a bystander, it's not your fault if harassment happens, nor you should feel guilty if you do try to help and the situation escalates negatively. Do the best you can. If you're traveling with someone who's been harassed before, consider making a safety plan in case it happens again.

If you don't know what to do or you feel you can't handle it alone, get help. Ask a friend to stay with you. Flag down staff members or venue security. Together, we can make harassers feel unwelcome and make the convention environment safer for everyone.

What to Do

  • If you don't feel safe or equipped enough to do something yourself, seek out help from someone else.
  • Assess the situation and act accordingly; if the harasser is aggressive or may have a weapon, do not directly confront. Take the route of action that seems safest for all parties. If it feels safe to do so, tell the harasser to stop and call out what they are doing for what it is - harassment.
  • Approach the target and start a conversation unrelated to the harassment - compliment their outfit, ask them a question about their wig or makeup, talk about the weather. Anything to change the flow of the situation. If possible, get the person to another location, away from the harasser.
  • If the harassment escalates, get help from a staffer, your friends, or emergency personnel if necessary.
  • If the harassment is over before you get a chance to intervene, still go over to the targeted person and ask them if they're okay, or if they need help. Validate their feelings and let them know you understand what happened was not their fault or acceptable.
  • If you documented the harassment in still photos or on video, never post it online without speaking to the target and evaluating safety issues.

This information is available in pamphlet form here. It may be printed or distributed as long as it is done so freely.

The Cosplayer Survivor Support Network was founded by Trickssi in November of 2016.
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